Our role as parents is not to modify or change our sensitive child’s personality or behaviour but to guide them so that it is channelled in a positive, harmonious, and life supporting way. So how can you do this? You can do it by trial and error or you can use resources like ‘My Child’ to help you understand your child’s personality and behaviour. The more you understand your child, the more able you are to guide them with love and wisdom and reduce conflict.
‘My Child’ is a system that identifies your child’s personality and behaviour style through a series of questions. Once you have completed the questionnaire you are sent a report that details what motivates your child, how to create a positive climate at home, how to communicate, and how to resolve conflicts. Here is an example of the four personality styles:
Adventurer
Adventurers are always looking for excitement and can’t sit still. They want to test their limits and enjoy anything that goes fast. They are natural born risk takers who act bold and are often hyperactive. They want to take control and be in charge. They may not follow the rules, and are not interested in a tidy room or remembering schedules.
Socialiser
Socialisers have a vivid imagination and sense of fantasy. As young children they love to have stories read to them. They live in a world of make believe. Socialiser are emotional people and use their gut instinct. They talk a lot. They are enthusiastic and can be oversensitive. They enjoy harmony and peace and want to make the world a better place.
Helper
Helpers are naturally concerned and responsible children. They follow the rules and are happy to please others. They respect their elders, parents and teachers. They are dependable. At home Helpers are busy kids. They enjoy being given responsibility for tasks. At school they do well and work hard. They worry about change and prefer routines. Helpers love their home and family. They are orderly and tidy. They volunteer for community and class work.
Thinker
Thinkers are precise, neat and tidy. They enjoy figuring out how things work and ask lots of questions. They are non aggressive and avoid conflict. They excel at subjects that require thoughtful, logical and creative solutions. They hate taking risks and are not spontaneous or outwardly enthusiastic. Thinkers are perfectionists and set high standards.
Each 8 page report identifies your child’s personality and behaviour and the strategies you can use to guide and support them. It really is full of useful hints.
Note: This resource is useful for any child over 6-7 years.
